"Self Defense" is a state in which a person defends himself/herself against any attack, blame or harassment, etc by means of his/her words or actions. Sometimes A person uses anything with which He/she can hit the other person in his/her own defense.

Being defensive is another thing (its a reaction to someone's action) and harming others either with your words or actions is another.

Most of the time no action is taken to prevent the attacks to happen. Self Defense can be a shield to ward off an unwanted attack to the person by anyone like robbery, dacoity, extortion, etc. The right of Self Defense is available but isn't adequately implemented.

I have read about many incidents of rapes or murders etc. But the thing I couldn't understand that we let anybody do whatever they want to do no matter how much he/she harming us. We don't speak or do anything with our actions to stop them from doing that and sometimes we do not guide our children or people around about self-defense which is our basic right actually. Saving your own self from an attack for which you are not responsible is a human being right.

We do not guide our girls how can they save themselves if anybody comes to them with bad intentions. What is going to happen is going to happen, no matter what we do to eradicate it but at least we can be at the safer side to not become a part of anything wrong happening, at least we should try. I have noticed that among girls, knowledge, and awareness about self-defense is very rare. We don't guide our girls to defend themselves, rather than that we always ask them to keep themselves quite. That's why when something bad is going to happen to them, they think that they couldn't stop that. They DO NOT TRY. Their minds get lost and when it happens, we call them a RAPE VICTIM and most of the time the rapist roams around as free as always. However, now people have started spreading awareness about being self-defensive through different television programs or NGO seminars and have started guiding girls that how can they handle such situations. Still, in rural areas or in small cities, this is happening. Still, there are ONLY a few schools where training on Self Defense is given.

One more thing the number of murders that has immensely increased with the passage of time, target killing and all that. I have heard from different people and from my relatives that (GOD FORBID) if someone comes to you and asks you to give him whatever you have and he holds a gun then don't argue with him and just give him whatever he wants from you. In a way, it's better to lose something ordinary instead of losing your own life (that is compulsory).

But sometimes, a person becomes defensive and try to fight so he can save himself and at the end of the mess either a person himself loses a life or he gets succeeded in defending himself. In this case and due to negligence towards this matter, the murderers are free and innocents are prisoners.

A few days back, Some dacoits came over to my home (a person's most secure place), it was my mother who opened the door by mistake as the person outside introduced himself as a tailor ( so she misunderstood - or maybe it was written in fate to happen). There were 4 dacoits and 2 of us - me and my Mom. Those dacoits didn't know that there is anyone else other than my mom. So when I heard a scream of my mother, I got frightened, I ran towards the door (dacoits hadn't seen me yet). Then suddenly I don't know what came into my mind (by ALLAH), I ran upstairs and came out on my roof. I screamed to the world with my full energy, keeping the end in my mind. There was a wave of fear that had occupied me all over. I had no idea what was happening downstairs, I had no idea that what would they have done to my mother. At that time, I was just crying, screaming and asking for help. This was the least and the most I could do in my defense. I did it. By the grace of GOD, the dacoits ran away with zero harm to my mother or to anything in my house. Whenever I recall that incident, I start shivering.

One thing I have learned and understood that whenever anything like that happens to you in which you have to save a person or maybe no one, you MUST at least try to save yourself FIRST because if you succeed in saving yourself you can save others as well.

To save ourselves, we have to be defensive. We should have awareness about different scenarios. We should have an awareness of WHAT & HOW.

WHAT to do to defend ourselves? (Use of anything etc.)

HOW can we defend ourselves? (Different ways).