As the season of weddings has been started in Pakistan with the arrival of winters. So I decided to talk about marriage and post-marriage scenarios and circumstances. I thought it would be a great time to have some thought-provoking blog on this. According to my knowledge, perception & thinking I will try to give my best tips for Post marriage scenarios.

Marriage in Pakistan is not only a marriage of a girl and a boy, but it also builds a bond between two families; though a very strong bond. Marriage is, by the way, the first relationship that has ever been made on the planet of earth. That's the reason it is the strongest and the weakest relationship. A boy and A girl who get married to each other have different personalities belong to totally different backgrounds and own different perceptions about things.

This relationship needs time and effort to grow stronger. Both the genders have to compromise on things and one-sided compromises in marriages never last for long. Both genders have to understand and adjust according to each other desires and needs etc. Both A Husband and A Wife always go hand-in-hand facing different phases throughout their lives and till the end become One Soul that lies in two bodies.

 Tips For Girls:

This is a rule of thumb that girls have to leave their parental homes in order to live a happy married life and have to shift to their husband's home. I know, it is a very difficult thing to do ever to leave the best people of your lives to reach out to the next best person and family.

The first tip for girls who are getting married TO OBSERVE the things in husband's home, which is the routine and the moods etc.

2nd tip is RESPECT your elders and your husband, this is actually the topmost tip for a newbie.

3rd Tip is TO UNDERSTAND the feelings, the requirements of both the husband and family In-Law.

4th Tip is TO ADJUST in the family where you have gotten married, that is your actual home and you will be living there for the rest of your life.

5th Tip is TO MAKE HAPPY your husband, his family. A happy Bride never goes out of fashion.

As you are welcoming a new addition to your family and your room, tips for your happy married life are:

1st tip is TO ACCEPT the girl the way she is, who leaves everything for you. Always remember that ALLAH blesses with the best.

2nd tip is TO LOOK AFTER her, she is the one who needs your attention all the time and loves you to the core of her heart as she is there in your home just because of you.

3rd tip is TO APPRECIATE her, as she gets ready for you, anything good she does only for your happiness. This little gesture of appreciation will make her high in her morals.

4th tip is TO GIVE TIME & SPACE to her, she is unaware of anything happening around in your life or home; the routine. This helps her understanding of things.

5th tip is the mixture of TRUST, RESPECT & CONFIDENCE, this helps your wife to represent you in front of others with confidence, the respect is a give & take in between both the spouses and the same is with trust. No relationship works without these things.

A backbone and a foundation of any marriage rely on the 1st year of the marriage - that is the main year in which both the spouses get the best adjustments in their lives in regard to every aspect of their lives. Both the husband, wife and their families have to make compromises so that the life of the married couple starts with the love and smoothness which is needed at that time. The first year of marriage always remains in our memories no matter how old we go. Because if it is good, then you recall it with the smile on your face and if you had a worst 1st year of marriage then it makes you cry every time you remember that time.

As 1st year is the honeymoon period until the arrival of the kids. So in this 1st year, the couple gets a great amount of time to understand each other and gets close to each other. A strong bond is actually developed in between a husband & a wife in the same 1st marital year. That's why 1st year of marriage has a great influence on the couple and on the whole family. So that is the time & chance to make it worth living.