The most difficult time of every girl's life is when she is getting married.
Leaving your family in which you have your mother who gives you birth, spends her whole life to make you a better person and fulfills your all demands at home. Your father who does anything to any end to make your life tension free, becomes your shield when you need security and fulfill your desires without showing how it affects him. Your siblings (either brother or sister) who love you to the bottom of their heart and never show you ,become your parents when you need any serious opinion, your friends if you want to share anything and sometimes spoil your mood by doing things that irritates you, they are just another you.
Then leaving your room, your home even your inner befikar bacha behind and becoming a mature responsible woman who has to make everyone happy and comfortable with her presence is not a cup of tea at least for boys. Only the girls with good brought up achieve this.
Most of the girls do try to make the best of their efforts to adjust,compromise and ignore the heartaches and stay in happily everafter. But i always think why is it important and necessary only for girls to compromise and adjust in husband's house? Why the boys are so free of any tension like this?
and what if the girl just take a stand for herself, say no to anything that hurts her and wants a separation, then why divorce is just a taboo in our society? Why people don't let her live according to her values or desires?
There are so many whys but Nobody has the answers even of a single question.
Husband and wife own equal rights in Islam, but still ignorance exists. But if a husband is wrong then a wife is advised to compromise and if a wife is wrong then the situation becomes worst. Nobody understands the feeling of a girl who left her everything behind just to give happiness to her husband, his family. Nothing of her desire is important, only her husband's does.
We should all have to go through the Islamic teachings on "Husband and wife rights" thoroughly so we can understand where we are wrong and where we are right.
If everyone takes this seriously then half of our problems get solved.
How much awareness has already been spread out on this matter but still thing like this exists.
A famous quote about marriage is:
"Marriage is like a deck of cards. In the beginning all you need is two hearts and a diamond. But by the end, you wish you had a club and a spade."
So i made my small participation in spreading the word and i wish to all married, unmarried and brides to be to have a successful lovely and happy life after their marriages with lots of blessings and blissings.
Happy Reading!
Leaving your family in which you have your mother who gives you birth, spends her whole life to make you a better person and fulfills your all demands at home. Your father who does anything to any end to make your life tension free, becomes your shield when you need security and fulfill your desires without showing how it affects him. Your siblings (either brother or sister) who love you to the bottom of their heart and never show you ,become your parents when you need any serious opinion, your friends if you want to share anything and sometimes spoil your mood by doing things that irritates you, they are just another you.
Then leaving your room, your home even your inner befikar bacha behind and becoming a mature responsible woman who has to make everyone happy and comfortable with her presence is not a cup of tea at least for boys. Only the girls with good brought up achieve this.
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Most of the girls do try to make the best of their efforts to adjust,compromise and ignore the heartaches and stay in happily everafter. But i always think why is it important and necessary only for girls to compromise and adjust in husband's house? Why the boys are so free of any tension like this?
and what if the girl just take a stand for herself, say no to anything that hurts her and wants a separation, then why divorce is just a taboo in our society? Why people don't let her live according to her values or desires?
There are so many whys but Nobody has the answers even of a single question.
Husband and wife own equal rights in Islam, but still ignorance exists. But if a husband is wrong then a wife is advised to compromise and if a wife is wrong then the situation becomes worst. Nobody understands the feeling of a girl who left her everything behind just to give happiness to her husband, his family. Nothing of her desire is important, only her husband's does.
We should all have to go through the Islamic teachings on "Husband and wife rights" thoroughly so we can understand where we are wrong and where we are right.
If everyone takes this seriously then half of our problems get solved.
How much awareness has already been spread out on this matter but still thing like this exists.
A famous quote about marriage is:
"Marriage is like a deck of cards. In the beginning all you need is two hearts and a diamond. But by the end, you wish you had a club and a spade."
So i made my small participation in spreading the word and i wish to all married, unmarried and brides to be to have a successful lovely and happy life after their marriages with lots of blessings and blissings.
Happy Reading!
ur words are so deep😍
Thanks. Keep Reading and do letting me know about my work:)
He(husband) says… this is the story of each family in pakistan… every girl adjusts… so u should too… my parents are elder and they can say what ever they want… no husband can do something for her wife in Pakistan's society so how could i…..
I(wife) says i know you cannot do anything for me… but at least you can say i am sorry my parents misbehaved they shouldn't treat you this way…. at least i can think of you as a better educated person…
But
They(husbands) are the same persons in pakistan no matter for how long they studied in university because they were not taught by their mother at home… what she (mother-in-law) has gone through while she was newly married, she wants to repeat it with her(daughter-in-law) by saying i am like your mother… i am saying this for your betterment like your parents…
One thing Pakistan families should keep in mind never a daughter in law try to say o you are like my parents because they are not and parents of husband they shouldn't say you are like daughter to us… no one can be alternate to parents and own kids…. this is the curtain behind which most pf the Pakistani girls are destroyed… """""you are like daughter to my parents (husband)"""""
Please keep the relations in their original states…. at least try to have a different thinking so we can have a better society which is the key to betterment….