I remember the times when i used to love the functions we got to see when someone is getting married but frankly i never assume the situations through which people are going. Nowadays, weddings are the far BIG things in our lives as we have made them so.
There are so many functions usually start with the bridal shower then goes on with several dholkies, mayun, mehndi, barat, walima and then end with after parties which costs a lot. People used to spend not only on the arrangements of these events but also on the each single preparation that includes clothes, makeovers and jewelleries etc.
This has made lives of many people difficult and hard-to-go. Many Safaid Posh community of Pakistan does not hold this for long and just because of this many of the girls remain unmarried.
Moreover, the concept of dowry must be ended in our society which sees no bound. Still, people used to ask for dowry by themselves and this thing ends up when the marriage ends sadly and for many families its like impossible to arrange dowry along with the functions that are must. People do this all (no matter how) with the smiles on their faces but tensions and calculations in their hearts so they can show the people around them that they are not less than anyone.
This is heart wrenching that we have become more materialistic than before. We have forgotten our religious values and concept of the REAL MARRIAGE IN ISLAM. This makes me think that where we are heading towards, what will we get after doing all this show off?
Other than these wedding rituals,few more things which have destroyed our young generation the most. One of them is a concept of dance which has no meaning in our religion and other thing is the fashion that is beyond words and limits now. Sometimes i feel so ashamed that i did dance at my siblings weddings and even at my cousins marriages but now i feel like never do this ever again, i know its late to take this step but Late is always better than never. Other thing is the sense of fashion that is evolving enormously fast, reaching no limits of vulgarity and exposure of body.
We are losing not only our values but also our liberals want to change the culture of Pakistan. I wish that we all as a whole (if can) make a difference in society by giving some knowledge or spreading some awareness regarding this topic as well.
In the last, i would like to mention a quote,Aisha(R.A.) narrated that the Holy Prophet(P.B.U.H.) said: "Publicize these marriages, conduct them in masajids and beat the duff (tambourines) to announce them". (Trimidhi)
As simple as that. May ALLAH bless us all with His blessings(ameen).
Happy Reading!
There are so many functions usually start with the bridal shower then goes on with several dholkies, mayun, mehndi, barat, walima and then end with after parties which costs a lot. People used to spend not only on the arrangements of these events but also on the each single preparation that includes clothes, makeovers and jewelleries etc.
This has made lives of many people difficult and hard-to-go. Many Safaid Posh community of Pakistan does not hold this for long and just because of this many of the girls remain unmarried.
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This is heart wrenching that we have become more materialistic than before. We have forgotten our religious values and concept of the REAL MARRIAGE IN ISLAM. This makes me think that where we are heading towards, what will we get after doing all this show off?
 |
| image from google.com |
We are losing not only our values but also our liberals want to change the culture of Pakistan. I wish that we all as a whole (if can) make a difference in society by giving some knowledge or spreading some awareness regarding this topic as well.
In the last, i would like to mention a quote,Aisha(R.A.) narrated that the Holy Prophet(P.B.U.H.) said: "Publicize these marriages, conduct them in masajids and beat the duff (tambourines) to announce them". (Trimidhi)
As simple as that. May ALLAH bless us all with His blessings(ameen).
Happy Reading!